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  • Control Freaks… All of us?

    Posted on June 30th, 2009 Angad 1 comment

    Control.

    Its such a resonating word. Resonates with every person. All crave for control. Every one has their own way of achieving that position of control.

    Some use love, some sex, some care, and some plain old brute strength.

    Isn’t it amazing there can be so many ways, completely different from each other to achieve the same objective? Control.

    A parent punishes his or her child to show that the child’s life is in their control, a child goes ahead and falls sick or gets a injury to show(read rebel) to their parents, NO You cant control me, Now start taking care of me, I am in control. and that’s what it gets.

    The fight for control, leads to drained people, drained of their energy, their zest of life consumed with achieving control on their as well as the surrounding people’s life. Its the latter one that really screws up everything.

    Trying to achieve control over one’s own life is a good thing in my opinion, trying to do the same with other people’s lives, is not so good. People form rules, regulations, limitations which if are broken by the person they want control on, he/she should be punished. The ways of punishment can be very diverse, the way a parent punishes his/her child, the way a lover punished his/her lover, the way a teacher punishes his/her student, or the way a friend punishes his/her friend.

    Not talking, not giving, no sex, no interaction, no helping hand, these are just a few examples of punishment as well as control methods.

    And the irony of this whole control issue is that, 95% of the times, we do it so naturally, we dont even have to formulate any strategies, it’s so sick that it’s so normal to us to try and control other people. but in this sickness, lies the cure as well.

    Name the control drama when you feel some one is trying to control you. It would work efficiently most of the times, because it makes the person conscious of what he/she i doing. If some one is intimidating you, its probably, he/she just wants you to behave in a certain manner failing which you get out of their control, so naming the control drama, as in asking it simply, “Why are you so angry?” works in a way that their conscious brain looks at itself, it sees what its doing unconsciously. and they hold themselves. coming back to a more sane way of conversation.

    If some one is being overly interrogative, just ask them, why are you so interested? believe me, it will make them think the same question and then in the next sentence they speak they will come from a calmer place.

    Till I need to blabber again.

    ciao 🙂

  • My thoughts about God / The Source / Whatchamacallit – Part 3

    Posted on June 24th, 2009 Angad No comments

    Continued from: My thoughts about God / The Source / Whatchamacallit – Part 1 & My thoughts about God / The Source / Whatchamacallit – Part 2

    Day before yesterday, I was discussing this whole topic with my partner which i discussed in my earlier posts, while that brain storming, and getting disappointing conclusions, one thing hit me, some times, the most obvious conclusion, is the right one.

    What I mean is, in this whole mumbo jumbo of a question filled life, what’s the most obvious answer to what’s the meaning of life? Well to me is, to live it fully and completely I guess.

    Lets see it from how I reached here. What’s a human being most afraid of? Death, I believe. Shit scared to think all the accomplishments, all the memories, all the people he loved, all the things he owned are gonna be gone, poof… as soon as he dies? Scary isn’t it? Humans as a race are a very hopeful one. So they decided, death cant be it… right? there’s gotta be a way to go on after that. Ahh… after life, reincarnation… brilliant. Hmmm… So if we need to put some power into this idea, okay lets put all the power into some thing like a super being. which no one can see, which no one can hear, which you can only meet with once you dearly depart from this world! Convenient isn’t it?

    Its a self uplifting theory of man to keep himself from going insane because of the fear of Death!

    So if this is not it then what is it?

    I’ve come to a realization of a person who believes in Science. Organisms, constantly evolving. From single celled organisms, to organisms which live in water, to amphibians, to reptiles, to primates, to human. The evolution of Man as taught in every school. Why not actually see some truth in it? Okay so I asked her, now try to disprove this theory, just running an idea by you, the immediate answer from her was then tell me how some people are psychics? Clairvoyants? She said, your theory of us being organisms of science, that there’s no God, and no external life force goes down the drain very easily. I thought, well what if clairvoyants have just evolved. Like say, some people develop their bodies, some their minds, some develop logic, while some develop creativity, some are good in calculations, and some develop language skills. Clairvoyant people have just developed that part of their mind which deals with clairvoyance. So, what this point means is that, every one of us has the ability for clairvoyance in us, its just that we don’t develop it. Its like every body having a high tech cell phone, but one person using only some basic features, some more advanced features, and some using it extremely to the limit. I am not saying a clairvoyant person is using their mind to the max, its just that part they are using, I am sure a clairvoyant might not know what an engineer knows, they’ve just developed different parts of their mind.

    In the end. My personal conclusion about this whole GOD issue is that the whole system is a system of control. When you die, you die, so live your life, LIVE it. Nice and good. 🙂

  • Cuteness personified! Kitten Mania

    Posted on June 17th, 2009 Angad No comments

    Was buying my smokes the other day, and the corner of my eye saw this.. small thing… creeping out from under the small shop… scared the hell outta me in the first instance, but then what I saw was like so damn cute!! Small kitten, one that could easily fit in the palm of my hand, climbing on to my shoe. Cute isnt it?

  • Cafe mocha from Cafe Coffee Day!

    Posted on June 17th, 2009 Angad 9 comments
    A lot can happen over coffee...

    A lot can happen over coffee...